I think it is really important that mothers be able to band together regardless of their differences. As a lactivist, I’m not against moms who formula feed, I’m against the formula companies misinformation and dirty marketing tactics. As a co-sleeper I’m not against cribs, I’m against misinformation by the crib industry and the lack of useful information provided on the normal sleeping arrangement practiced throughout the world. I am against the practice of routine vaccination but I’m not against vaccinating mothers. I’m against lack of informed consent and strong-arm tactics (sometimes outright lies) to deny exemptions. I’m against spanking and…well, I just think that is wrong. But I think society condones it and doesn’t provide alternatives and until it does I can hardly vilify the average parent who uses hitting in a moderated manner. I choose to live a (poor) single-income family but I don’t blame (and sometimes I’m jealous of) mothers and fathers who choose daycare and a career.
When it all comes down to it no one wins if we make our fellow mothers the enemy and we ensure that we will never be able to band together for significant change. So what can we do?
- Have a sense of humor. Embrace the word crunch and use it with humor (see example below).
- Know when humor is inappropriate. “poor baby got bunches of shots” might be funny. “you injected your kids with poison” no so much.
- Don’t label or accuse. Calling a mom lazy because she didn’t breastfeed is beyond rude and really just ignorant.
- Stick to the facts. “Breast is Best and this is why. Also, here is how to get some support.”
- Know when to stop. Your friendship and camaraderie is more important than your soapbox. If you want a soapbox get a blog (teehee).
Other mom: DON’T DO IT [cosleep]
Me: I usually agree with [Other mom]….but…COSLEEPING IS THE GREATEST THING EVARRRR!
Other mom: Yeah well you’re the crunch hippiemama!
Me: E.V.E.R. Crunch, crunch, crunch!
Other mom: Quit getting crumbs all over the board!
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